Lay Wee Ng

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Seng Hock Tan

To Chen & Immediate Family, Lay Wee’s wider family members and friends,

My wife and I, we met Lay Wee when we arrived for our undergraduate studies at Massey University in 1982. Lay Wee was a senior, a couple of years or so ahead of us doing her postgraduate accountancy. At first meeting, we knew Lay Wee to be a straight and honest person. Integrity was particularly important to her. She was caring and had always had good intentions for people. Over the years we kept in touch with her and her husband Chen. We left New Zealand in 1994 but we often thought and talked about her here in Singapore. We sadly missed her and Chen on her recent trip through Singapore back to Wellington.

Lay Wee was such an ernest and lovely person. She has a special place in our hearts all this time, and will remain so.

Shaw Fen and I wish to let Chen and Lay Wee’s loved ones know that we have you in our hearts and our prayers during this difficult sad time. We will miss her.

May she rest in peace.

Chieng Shaw Fen & Tan Seng Hock
Singapore
16 Feb 2025

 

Lynn Dee Puah

纽西兰时区
2025年2月9日
凌晨3点05分

如果大剂量的芬太尼都只能止住部分的剧痛和不舒服感，
那么，眼泪并没有资格表达悲恸。

亲爱的四姨，
谢谢你来当我的阿姨。

我在领英找到了你最后的贡献，
明白了要有多少沉淀，
才能在最不舒服的情况下，
选择最优雅的方式离开。

自我懂事以来，
你一直都在纽西兰生活，
但却也总是在我们身边。
除了多年来无数瓶的蜜糖，
厨房里，有你送我的水晶碗，
孩子们的房里，有你送给他们和我小时候的童书，
游戏房里，有你送给我们两代人的益智游戏，
客厅里，有你送我的乐谱，
身份证上，有你给我起的英文名字。
世上最遥远的，从来不是距离。

你说，人生里最大的错误，是让自己太有压力，让我不要重犯。
我说，不要有压力本身就是一种压力。

我会珍藏我们在2023年6月19日最后的合照。

抱歉我来不及接受你的邀请到纽西兰深造或游玩。

夜深人静，
心碎得特别响亮。

你的侄女，
霖妮

Translation:

New Zealand time zone
February 9, 2025
3:05 am

If a large dose of fentanyl can only stop some of the severe pain and discomfort,
then, tears are not qualified to express grief.

Dear Aunt Lay Wee,
Thank you for being my aunt.

I found your last contribution on LinkedIn,
and I understand how much precipitation is needed,
to choose the most elegant way to leave in the most uncomfortable situation.

Since I was a child,
you have been living in New Zealand,
but you are always by our side.
In addition to countless bottles of honey over the years,
in the kitchen, there are crystal bowl you gave me,
in the children’s room, there are children’s books you gave them and me when I was a child,
in the game room, there are educational games you gave us for two generations,
in the living room, there are music scores you gave me,
on the ID card, there is the English name you gave me.
The farthest thing in the world is never distance.

You said that the biggest mistake in life is to put too much pressure on yourself, so I shouldn’t make it again.
I said, not having pressure is a kind of pressure in itself.

I will treasure our last photo together on June 19, 2023.

I am sorry that I didn’t have time to accept your invitation to study or travel in New Zealand.

In the dead of night,
my heart broke especially loudly.

Your niece,
Lynn Dee

 

Clara Lugnet

My heartfelt condolences to Chen, Wei Shan and Wei Kai

I’m very sad and will miss a very dear friend who was so kind and talented in so many ways.
A positive, intelligent and stoic woman who takes challenges with positive attitude.
A great mum who was so proud of her boys and love them dearly.
A kind, caring and great friend

My apologies for not being able to farewell Lay Wee. Rest in peace my dear friend, may the angels be with you on your journey and always.

 

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